We create an educational community with the workshops offered by the Guidance Department to the families of the School.
On Tuesday, November 28, we had a new session of the family training program. We received Pepe, social educator of the City of Zaragoza in the House of Women. He explained to us the program that they carry out “El amor es otra cosa”, to educate on equality in order to prevent gender violence.
We learned that gender violence changes its face depending on how we approach it, what we know about it, whether we see it when it starts or after several years … We analyze the reality we live today, how we have come here building society from a perspective mainly male, and today, despite some changes, we continue to live in a society in which the tasks of women are still less valued than the same tasks performed by men.
It is evident that we are all against any type of violence, but in the case of gender violence, the problem comes from the inequality between men and women. When we talk about education, it is important to reflect on what we say to children, if we allow them to do the same activities, be it boys and girls, if we let them leave until the same hours or we allow them to assume the same risks.
In Zaragoza , in adolescent ages, 1 in 10 girls have suffered abuse and 13% of the boys have mistreated some kind of girl with whom they have been dating or have been going out. The fear of losing the other person is sometimes the reason to continue living situations that are not acceptable.
Parents are the main responsible In the education of our children, but they are not the only ones, as we have a society that is also part of the education of our children and in which values are transferred continuously that are not always valid and that we must be alert.
Educate to avoid everyday inequalities: transmit norms, values and egalitarian attitudes, expand the possible roles and expectations for men and women and demystify relationships , stablish the same rights and obligations, distribute in a fair and balanced way the domestic tasks among the family, teach to solve conflicts through dialogue, not use or allow violence in personal relationships, use the feminine in the language, not use phrases that favor stereotypes.
Gender violence is not just a scream or a blow, it is also a way of understanding the relationship, where silence itself can become a punishment for some action carried out.
In the talk, Pepe gave us strategies and guidelines on how to help someone who is suffering gender abuse, and recommended reading the book Chimamanda.